I think Nigeria as a community, where illiteracy, ignorance, ITK
(I too know) by parents, and the economy are the main issues
affecting this topic "SEX" or "ABSTINENCE". We 'all know that
stopping youths from having sex is out of the point..highly
impossible , so why bother about abstinence when protection can
be secured before sex. To add to everything, parents should
talk about sex education to their kids, so that their kids would
be able to relay any problem or questions they got. Also the
society (Economy) ain't helping either. Youths are struggling to
make ends meet to themeelves and sometimes to support their
parents too. Sex education should be introduced in schools and
make protections known in all areas. At least these will help
mode the up coming youths since the older once are goners..lol. But
seriously, the government should be more involved and provide
facilities, jobs and recreational centres and youth clubs to
youths. Finally, abstinence wouldn't help, educating youths,
parent and the general public about sex would help and along
side bring about protection into it.
Nigerians should look for the protection to
fight the scourge. During this research youth should abstain
from sex and those who cannot do without it should prevent it by
Adisa Kifayat Olaide ( Lagos,
Nigeria should forget every thing about
abstinence and lay more emphasis on protection method because we
youth of nowadays love sex. I mean almost every youth will say
that unless the timid ones. Even if you do not want to have sex,
I think every one has the right to know various methods of
protection in case it happens.
Fadesire (Illinous U S A.)
I think emphases should be led on abstinence not protection
because condom is not 100 percent safe.
Shirley (Owerri, Imo State)
Why should we pretend when we
know the truth? The truth is that abstinence is the best
solution, but safe sex is more practical. Therefore, we should
encourage abstinence especially amongst primary and secondary
school pupils, but it's only practical to encourage safe sex
among university students and young adults. I hope we understand
that condom only reduces the chances of contracting HIV, it's
not a protection. Please inform everybody that 'safe sex' does
not mean 'use of condoms'.
Patrick Ihie (South Africa)
I'm of the opinion that safe sex
is the best way out of this mess. The world has gone so nuclear
that no one can hardly stay out of sex even when it is being
preached and condemned in our various denominations. You still
find out that young men and ladies do go back home and practice
it 'cos it's something that is done behind a closed door; the
result will be either unwanted pregnancy, termination of
pregnancy, HIV, or venereal diseases that is been contacted
during sex. I suggest that training for safe sex and using
protection should be carried out in primary, secondary and high
institutions. You may wonder why I mentioned primary schools?
The reason is that those in primary schools have also started
Iheonunekwu (Owerri, Imo State, Nigeria)
Talking about Abstinence, it
will be very difficult telling someone to totally abstain from
sex what I think should be emphasized on is the use of
protection like Condoms and talking about protection you
should also emphasize on the use if durable products to be used
and how it should be used.
Mercy Owole Abah (Abuja,
I think they
should emphasize both. Young people who haven't started having
sex should be encouraged to practice abstinence; those who have,
should be encouraged to use protection.
those who want youths to practice abstinence only are not
serious. it's hypocrisy. Everyone is doing 'it' in Nigeria, so
why a we pretending?
Ken (PH, Nigeria)
programs worked wonders in Uganda; there where abstinence beauty
contests. girls who married as virgins were rewarded. Uganda was
able to reduce its HIV rate. Why shouldn't it work in Nigeria?
Sex b4e marriage is immoral, sex outside marriage is immoral.
Even though some people are doing it.. does not make it right.
So govt. at all times must preach the right message to young
people and not what they want to hear.
Kate (Texas USA)
A man ask me to be
his girlfriend last year. We broke up cos he wanted to sex me
without condom, I say no, he left me. I know some people who sex
without condom and they have many friends who sex them cos the
boys will leave them if they say no. So my point is many girls
don't want to have sex, the boys force them to sex to look like
big guys so the girls have no choice. their parents don't have
money, the boys help them sometimes.
Don't list my name ( Lagos,
it's more realistic to make condoms either cheap or free like in
most developed economies. Sex is a call of nature like hunger
that's what made HIV spread very successful. It touched on a
very basic human urge difficult to undermine. You simply cannot
curb sex urge among young people in a depriving society as
Nigeria. Those who can do without it should be encouraged,
but the popular majority who are into it, use protection.
preach abstinence, do they practice abstinence?...are we really
talking about Nigerian politicians and upper class? Come to
Unilag on weekends. ye-ye people! they are destroying these
little girls, and talking nonsense on TV. I am definitely for
free condoms in campus hostels. I can't even couch for my own
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